We’ve all heard the labels…Negative Nellie, Debbie Downer…names to describe people who can’t seem to find anything good to say or see the positive side of a situation. No one really wants to be around these people as they make it difficult to really enjoy life.
But let me ask you something.
Is it possible you have someone like this living with you all the time? Perhaps inside your head?
Do you put yourself down more often than you encourage yourself?
Is it easy for you to help someone else see the positive side of a situation but when it comes to yourself you are critical and pessimistic?
This came to my mind the other day as I hit the snooze button one too many times and didn’t get up early enough to exercise before work. Many days this is my only opportunity and I found myself grumbling and putting myself down first thing in the morning. Phrases like, “you know if you had gone to bed earlier you could have gotten up on time” and “how do you expect to get healthy if you can’t even get up in time to exercise for 20-30 minutes in the morning.”
While there was some truth in these thoughts it was no way to start the day. I asked myself what I would’ve said to a friend who told me the same thing and realized my answer would have been very different. I would have encouraged them not to give up or to allow it to ruin their day.
Philippians 4:8 says:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
I don’t believe this passage is saying that we should live life with rose-colored glasses or never evaluate situations for improvement. However we should not fill our minds with these kinds of thoughts.
Imagine how different things would be if we fed ourselves the same words we would tell someone else.
“Don’t worry about slipping up on that goal. Try again. You can make it happen.”
“Nice work. You’re really good at this.”
Being positive is not the same as being arrogant or self-serving. Finding the good in yourself also helps you find the good in others and look for the blessings all around. We can’t fully love others unless we love ourselves as well.
As you begin your weekend think about how you look at and talk to yourself. Catch yourself being negative and turn it to positive. Find things about yourself that are admirable, excellent and praiseworthy and thank God for creating these things in you. You’ll be surprised at the peace that will fill your heart and life through this small change in thought.
blessings and peace to you…